This is the second time I am writing to you. I am having a problem. I did not get any answer on my first letter. I am 29 years old and my girlfriend is 23 years old. I have been supporting her since she was 18. Her father never used to give her enough money, and when I met her, she told me that the only way I could get her is if I was willing to spend my money on her. She knew my babymother, but my baby mother was keeping another man with me. So, I told her that I was looking for another girlfriend.
The first money I gave her was $1,000 to test her. She took it and said that can take her to school. I was driving for a man. He was an old man. He is now dead. He was going to his lodge meeting, so I picked her up from evening class and took her home and went back to meet the man before his lodge meeting was over.
Every week I gave her money. She never complained about the amount. Sometimes it was $3,000 and sometimes it was $5,000. All that time I did not know that she was a virgin. My babymother and I broke up. So one weekend we decided to go to the country and we had sex for the first time. It was at that time that I found out that she was a virgin.
Pastor, her mother does not like me. Her mother said that she saw her father in a dream and her father said that his granddaughter should not marry me. Her mother believes in Obeah and she promised to Obeah me because I hit out on her for something she did. She used to sleep around with lots of men. Imagine, pastor, this woman telling her daughter that she should not marry me because I do not have any manners and that I must not come back to her yard.
Since her daughter and I are involved, she always wants money from her. I give her what I can, but I have to stop because I am now paying for a house. So now she hates me. All she talks about is obeah.
Dear C. S.
I suggest that you and this girl go through a series of counselling and get married. Ignore her mother. She should be glad to know that her daughter has found a young ambitious man. Don’t allow what she says about you to deter you from doing what is right.
I am glad that you have gotten a house. I wish you well. You and your woman should go to church and serve the Lord. Be respectful to your mother-in-law. Don’t allow her to push you around at all.
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